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Masturbation is a sexual secret which isn’t really a secret at all.

Whether or not they acknowledge or

talk about it, partners often assume the other sometimes masturbates.

However, masturbation can be denied or compulsively hidden if one or both

partners feel it is some sort of betrayal. Or they may worry that there is

something wrong if their partner

masturbates, believing that they should only be fulfilled by sex with each other.

The difference between masturbation

and partner sex, however,

is like the difference between a

snack and a banquet.

Masturbation may be comforting or

help you to relax,

or it may deal with intense moments of arousal;

what it doesn’t usually do is provide the sense of occasion,

connection or achievement which may

be associated with lovemaking.

A negative attitude towards

masturbation sometimes develops

when someone has been in trouble for

touching themselves as …

actively told that it is wrong or

damaging.

However, even when they have no

memories at all associated with

masturbation or self-touch,

many people still feel guilty about it.

Fortunately, improved sex education

should convince future generations

that masturbation is a natural way to

experiment and learn about your body

in ways that can also be very helpful

to partners.

As an occasional or daily practice,

it can be relaxing and can cause no

harm to yourself or anyone else.

Some couples masturbate together;

this can be both arousing and help

you show each other how you enjoy

being touched.