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Its Monday morning, I’ve showered, dressed and in the kitchen preparing breakfast; as I bend into the corner cupboard for my saucepan I feel my lace knickers ride into my backside and instantly think ‘Mmm.. this could make a very hot Fuckbook photo’. Am I becoming ‘selfie’ obsessed?! My naughty ‘selfie’ collection hidden on the hard drive at the back of my wardrobe might suggest so, although a quick glance at Instagram and I realize I’m not alone. What was once a creative feed for avid photographers is now an array of duck faces and bouncy round butts (now lovingly referred to as the ‘belfie’). Not that I particularly mind however it’s my observation that the ‘sexy selfie’ is no longer a quiet thing for the minority but something embraced by the majority with us documenting even the most mundane of daily chores carefully styled to accentuate the cleavage and capture the wicked … in our eye that suggests its more than the icing from the cake we would like to be licking from the tip of our finger.

Now I am by no means criticizing this movement; I’m charging forward from the front of the pack. If Perez Hilton is to be believed we are soon to see #SSS (Sex Selfie Sunday) taking the place of #TBT (Throw Back Thursday).

But why are we doing it?! Is it that we are a more sexually open society? Is it that it creates a sense of sexual liberty? Truth is there is nothing new about it, technology has just made it easier to take photos of ourselves having sex without having to pick the prints up from the pharmacy three days later shame faced. Perhaps we take more because we have more control over how we present ourselves with the forward facing camera, instant viewing options and endless photo apps making photo editing a breeze with the perfect filter for every occasion and mood. Of course we want to portray a flattering image of ourselves and we expect encouragement and affirmation when we share these images in social media; I do however object the notion that we must meet society’s version of perfect in every image and I do like the suggestion that all ‘selfies’ should be hash tagged ‘VAIN’.

There have been blogs written criticizing this trend claiming that it pushes unreal expectations on women leaving them feeling not “good enough, pretty enough, and skinny enough”. However on a place like Fuckbook I would argue that all forms of beauty are embraced and it is a way to express and celebrate individuality.

You may have seen the new Fuckbook image “Fuckbook Encourages Shameless Selfies”, and honestly speaking it is sex selfie heaven online here for both voyeurs and exhibitionists alike so I thought I’d end this blog by giving you a few of my tips tips on how to take a good selfie.

1- Use natural lighting. Sunshine is a photographers best friend and the light is at its best when its low in the sky. Go towards the light and face towards the sun. It’s more flattering than artificial light. Never take a backlit photo, it creates shadows that are becoming to no one.

2- Know your good angles. Sometimes a slight twist to the side can give your waist … Although duck faces are definitely best left to the girls in high school, a slight pout will accentuate your cheek bones. Highlight your best features, no one is telling you that you must take a photo of every part of your body. Tease them with your best bits and leave the rest for the imagination.

3- For facial shots, Hold the camera slightly higher rather than lower; and Men (according to research from the University of British Columbia) should keep their expression brooding. Smiling men look friendly, but serious guys look hot, the study found.

4- Think about your background. If you insist on taking your selfies from your bedroom please take a few moments to tidy your room first. A messy background can be distracting and sometimes quite off putting, no one wants to see what a grub you are. Think about what might be a subtle interest to look at, such as sex toys casually displayed on the bed but keep in clean and interesting.

5- Play around with photo editing apps. Nearly always your photo is going to improve with a filter. There is no longer a reason to post a photo displaying a bright red pimple when it can be removed effortlessly with one of these apps. Crop the image to flatter and balance the focal point of the photo. Everyone is doing it.. don’t be shy.. be creative!

Fuckbook would be a dull place without the enjoyment of sharing sexy selfies. I think we would all agree Sex Selfies are so much better than the oversharing trend of food porn. So dare I declare, “LONG LIVE THE SEXY SELFIE!”