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15 First-Time Anal Sex Tips: A Guide on How to Do Anal

ROSEMARY BRENNANEMILY MORSE

NOVEMBER 1, 2020 12:18 PM

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If you're considering having anal sex for the first time, you're probably wondering how to do anal—how do you prepare, relax, and enjoy the intimate moment with your partner?

It's a question that's becoming more common. According to the latest research from the Kinsey Institute, more young women than ever—45 percent—are exploring anal play.

To answer your first-time anal sex questions, we called in the experts: Rachel Needle, Psy.D., a licensed psychologist and certified sex … and Tristan Taormino, author of The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women.

We asked for their top anal sex tips to take the stress out of first-time anal sex.

1. Relax your mind...and body

   The last thing you want to be before attempting anal penetration (or anal stimulation) is tense. "If you're hesitant, nervous, or not into it, no one is going to get off, and what's the point of that?" says Taormino. If this is your first time trying anal sex, spend some time relaxing—take a hot bath, ask your partner to give you a sensual massage, heck, you can even meditate. To prepare for anal sex, you can also focus on specifically relaxing your the muscles of your anal sphincter. To see what that feels like, tighten your butt muscles—kind of like a kegel for the other end—and then release.